Raise Now....

Being a single mother is not what women who are single mothers due to whatever reason or circumstance look forward to. But how can you deal or cope when such a thing happens to you? I am a single mother of one to this amazing little prince that I try to raise. I try to give it my best shot all the time. I do get confused about what to we do sometimes and I must admit, it is overwhelming sometimes. Especially raising a young man. There are some things that only a man can relate to. So when such times come by, I just try my best to not overthink the situation and hope that I can be the best mom/dad to the little king that I am raising.

What I have resulted to is ensuring that I keep him busy whenever I get the chance. He is such a free spirit and all I would want is to raise him to know that in life, things may happen in a way that one did not expect or anticipate but the one thing to do is to keep moving ...  onward and upwards.
He has become my best friend, one who gives me the strength to never give up no matter what lies ahead, both the known and the unknown. It is such  great feeling to finally have a man that I can take out to weddings with as my date... ( I even dress him up in a tuxedo as I dress up for whichever wedding... speaking of which, we have a wedding to attend this 1st June 2016 ...\0/ ). I started working early so I recall days when I had to take myself out for diner dates, sit and eat by myself as I was .. well.. by myself. Now, I get excited to ask him where he'd want to grab dinner / lunch .. as we sit and chat about the day. Sigh... it is good to be his mommy I tell you!

He and I are best of  friends. I have found such beauty and pride in being his mother. He has taught me to humble myself because sometimes life does surprise you and you have to simply be like water. I have come to take this quote from Brice Lee to heart... it is simply the best.

" Empty your mind. Be formless, shapeless. Like water. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can flow , or crash. Be water, my friend!" - Brice Lee

My current situation has simply made it easy for me accept things as they are and look at them in a positive light.  I, my friend , have become - Water -.  Besides, it is the greatest gift that I  have ever gotten on earth, being his mom. I recall nights when i'd sit and watch him as he slept, wondering how other mothers do it... I was only 26 when I had him.  I actually did wonder if I was fit  or ready for this new job. Turns out, I was the lucky chosen one. It is the best thing I have ever become. Someone who he looks up to. Always has to check with , before doing something or believing it or not.. " yes, mama?.. isn't it?  " are some of the things he says to me as he tries  to check with me if some the things he is saying are facts, lol. you know, confirmation from his BFF.  I love this boy.

 I cannot stress this enough. Having to raise him, has just changed my life in such a positive way. He has already started teaching me things that I never knew before and frankly speaking, had I never met him, I doubt I'd have had the chance to learn them. So I would advise all parents to take heart and love this job that we are given the minute we get the tittle mom/dad. There are lots of sacrifices that come with this job but I think that it is all worth it in the end. In fact, it is worth it every minute of the day. The smile my son gives me, or the random hugs or kisses I get then followed by " I love you " or " you are the best mom " just melt my heart. It is why I exist. To make him proud to call me mom, for him to count on me and know that I am always there for him no matter what.

So, Cheers to all you Single moms / dads out there. Raise the little kings /queens to become the best men and women in the society that they are from, amazing boyfriends or girlfriends to those they will date. Loving and caring husbands or wives to these who will marry them and eventually, due to what they learnt from you, they will turn out to be great mothers and fathers ... to their children. 

That, ladies and gentlemen, is what I am trying with mine, and hoping that all goes well in the end. 

Life is happier and easier when you start being happy with what it has given you. Don't wait for the perfect time so that you can be the perfect parent. And I beg you not to let another parent tell you how to be a "good parent" If  you feel  that you are doing it right, then by all means, continue doing it your way. There will never be a perfect time to be the perfect parent - Life is passing you by, besides, these young ones grow by the minute. Live Now... Raise Now!

Cheers my friends.

xx

Shella.

Dear Mr. VIP

Oh Life. It must be so good to be driven around like a boss, you can sit there, fall asleep, read a book, gaze into spac.

There are so many things in this world that can make us loose our cool ( btw I have zero tolerance to stuff that waste one's time). Sometimes its stuff that the humans we live with do that contribute to this, and at times its just the time of the month like - am one to know about this a little too well , me and many other women across this planet we call home.

Today I wake up, in a foul mood... my tummy had been running for the past three days from some food I had eaten at this nice restaurant, trust me, all I wanted was a simple dish - some calamari and salad... I got hell instead! So today I decided that I was much better and i could manage going to work. the cramps were not that bad and the toilet runs had reduced... a lot. so I get up, dress up and off is off.

As I drive, I see this car out of nowhere since I was approaching a corner, come onto me like they wanted to crush me if I do not make way! NOT TODAY SAITAN, NOT T O D A Y!! so i got this pic below to explain the scenario visually ..

So what do I do to this driver and his boss ( oh , the car was having some weird number plates, the boss was sitting in the back left), being driven around must be really nice ... he seemed to just be seating there, gazing outside, maybe wondering why he did not have a chopper to fly him to work instead of rushing through traffic.. and why all of a sudden he was not moving as fast as his dear, loyal driver had promised. Instead, there was this girl , shouting as she moved her hands in the air with anger, that  there was no way , she was going to move and that they should get back to their own lane and simply be patient instead of making matters worse.

you know what, If they were in such a hurry, why did they not get on the road like yesterday night when there was literally no one on the road to block them??? Arrrgghhh so I just stopped... and watched as they maneuvered through the correct lane. That move was criminal btw. 

What makes you loose your cool? share yours in the comment section below.

Bye for now.